I've been on there for a bit, haven't really had any success. None of the quiver folks OKC gives me have so far garnered much interest from me and those that have haven't logged on in 6+ months or so, so I don't even bother sending messages. I've never had anyone send me any messages, despite having some visitors. I kinda don't get the sense of anyone wanting to date - moreso it seems people are looking for one-night stands, which I'm not into!

So in a nutshell - it hasn't been really successful for me.

I used to think OKC was a bad thing. I rarely got any messages, and when I did message different girls, I didn't get much interest in their responses back. I kept my profile there just because and figured that some day it'd come in handy, but didn't hold much hope for it. Plus, all my quiver matches were usually from PA (I'm in WV), or at the very least, over an hour away from me. Fine and dandy, and all but still blah.

Then I met my girlfriend.

It was kinda funny really because OKC never sent me an email alert that she had messaged me, so I didn't find the message until nearly 2 weeks later. She had moved to my area to take on a job in the school district and was looking for people to hang out with. She lived very close to me (a 3 minute walk down the street I later learned), and it all just seemed way too good to be true, but it was true. This weekend we'll be celebrating 5 months together, and honestly I couldn't be happier with how things turned out. I feel so lucky to have her in my life.

So in summary, OKC was typically a bust for me, and usually not worthwhile, but all it took was that one message to turn things around :)

I met my wife on there. She messaged me, 3 weeks later we met in person at lesbian social night, and ate at gay Denny's. 7 weeks I moved in with her.

We are still going strong.

Just out of curiosity... is gay Denny's a thing? Bc I have one in my area and I"m just wondering if there are gay Denny's in a lot of places.

I live in AZ, and it is called gay denny's because it is by all the gay bars.

If it is in different states, I don't know.

Oh never mind! I live in AZ too so I'm thinking of the same Denny's I'm sure.

There's GAY Denny's somewhere??? Awesome!! ;)

On the one hand, I think it is one of the easiest ways to meet girls, but I haven't seen a lot of action. The pickings are slim no matter where you live, and I think most are waiting for people to message them rather than messaging others. I also think what you said is true, a lot of people are going around talking to other people on it with no intention of meeting up at all. It's also frustrating for me to log on and see the same people I saw last time I logged on, and none of them really seem like they would be a good match for me. I still have faith in it, as most of my dates have come from okc.

i talked to some lovely ladies on okc, a couple not-so-lovely, but i decided it isn't for me. it's easy enough to send a message to anybody who interests you, either they'll respond or they won't. i think it's good if you're serious about trying to start a relationship (whatever you're looking for), but since that isn't actually a priority for me right now i lost interest pretty quickly.

as far as etiquette, i'd suggest reading profiles and if you see something you like then send a message that addresses what you have in common, or something in particular that interested you. i'd say it is way easier to be the first to start a conversation, rather than just waiting for people to message you. and i'm pretty sure there's a part of the profile that says what kinds of relationships a person is interested in, right? so if somebody lists that they're interested in meeting up in real life i don't see why you couldn't just ask if you want to.

My experience has been mixed. There have been people I talked to on OKC who I didn't end up meeting up with, but we just weren't that enthusiastic about each other.

What I do is, I just go for it and ask them out when I feel the timing is right. It's usually when it gets to that level where I feel like they're an interesting enough person I'd like to meet and they seem interested enough to talk to me.

Never did OK, but did Match. And it worked great for me. (tho, I'm no longer w/ that person)

Tips: When you read a girl's profile, make note of how many things she talks about that she loves, admires, or enjoys doing, vs how many things she HATES or can't deal with or drive her insane.

Generally I find when people write, a lot of their true colors spill out. Does she go on and on about NOT wanting someone who smokes, plays video games, wears plaid, etc.??? I avoid people who fill their profiles with things they DON'T like in life...
Instead focus on girls who talk about what they enjoy, what their passions are, what they hope for in life. Ignore the pictures, and focus on what they're choosing to SAY in their profiles. When you find someone who is open and sharing the things they enjoy, it's SUPER easy to get them to respond when you focus on those things as well. If she says she's an avid hiker, ask her where she generally goes, or if she's done any awesome hikes lately. If she loves dancing, ask her about music and styles. If she is into cooking, ask what websites she uses for recipes and such. I noticed when I dated women (married now) that getting them to talk about themselves was EASY as long as you stuck to the things they said they liked. I never sent message to women who filled their profiles with stuff they hate. I mean, why?? Uggg...

Anyway, that's my advice. Hope you have better luck soon!

I've been using it for a while. My experiences have been up and down, mostly though things don't go anywhere, I meet up with people occasionally, one of whom turned out to be a good friend, another I dated for about 3 months, and the rest, we went out once or twice and haven't really kept in touch.

I don't have a lot of faith in it as somewhere to go to find a girlfriend, but, I enjoy it for getting out and meeting new people. Also, for practicing dating, I think it's great.

I was on OKC for a couple months and I was talking to a few people on a regular basis, but one of them stuck.. and I met my girlfriend on there! I am forever grateful to OKC. We're absolutely perfect together. We've been together for a year and a half now and we've been living together since this past May. It's going really well. :)

Yep, also in a two year relationship with an okc match... Meet lots of cool girls on there. Sometimes you have you take a three month break and return t for fresh faces. Local okc dating populations can be a little small.

Mixed. Many one-and-done dates, but a couple girlfriends. I just met someone new off the site, and we're planning on hanging out again so we'll see what develops.

Girls don't usually message me back, especially if it is entirely possible to meet and hook up. I think lots of people on the site have intimacy issues and wish to hide behind the computer, wishing the girl of their dreams would magically appear and message them.

That is so true! I think a lot of the girls on there don't really want to meet up with new people, and will only answer messages from their dream girl.

I've been on it for years and go on dates from time to time.. one just last week. I love that it's free, you can fill out a long detailed profile, and you can message back and forth with someone as much as you want. In my opinion, it's a quality site worth giving a chance. At the same time, I still wish I could meet someone in person and not have to do the dating site thing, but I suck at it.

I met my g/f on there and we've been together for a little over 2 years.

I've been with a girl I met off of there for over a year and I'm quite happy :) We're poly, so we both have active profiles on there and I'm about to meet a bunch of interesting-looking people who messaged me over the holidays. Also, I have a few friends that I've met off of there. I like to approach people on there without too much expectation with regards to being friends or lovers and I say as much in my profile- that works well for me.
I think it depends on which city you're in. I'm in a huge city, and OKC is very popular with the queer ladies here.

I've been on there for quite a while. Almost NONE of the relationships I've had with women whom I've met from the site were any good or lasted very long. One lasted over a year. We were on and off until we decided to get serious and get a place together. A month after we moved in together, she went crazy on me, decided she wasn't gay and month or so later was engaged to the male friend she moved in to take over my part of the utilities. Don't know if you can tell, but I'm still bitter about that...

I feel like a lot of the lesbians I see on the site are either one type or another - neither of which I find attractive.

So, no luck so far but I'm still hopeful.

my gf and I met on there and we are over a year strong. I have met two ex'es on there, one who should not have been dating at the time, the other was almost a year, and was an interesting relationship. I feel it is just as hit or miss as regular offline dating is.

My experience with OKC has been a sad one. People somehow fall into 2 categories - those who live more or less close to me and don't want to talk or are too different from me, so we have nothing to talk about. And those girls, who share my interests, usually live thousands of miles away and don't want to chat even for panpals value. Which is all kinds of sad - I'd love to find good friends, if True Love is unavailable :))