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01 December 2013 @ 10:45 pm
Age differences  
Do you think it's acceptable for women in their 20's to be dating 30somethings? Is 24 and 34 to much of a difference? I always assume that women in their 30's have their "ish" together, but it's not always the case, due to some unfortunate event some of them are earning pennies with their minimum wage job, so I could see why they could have something in common with women younger than them. Thoughts??
 
 
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NathalieWeasleynathalieweasley on December 2nd, 2013 04:01 am (UTC)
For a while (until her relationship was confirmed), I was talking to someone who was 34 (at the time I was 21). We appeared to be emotionally at the same place (the relationship she was and still is in is a new one and she doesn't appear to settling down anytime soon) and I'd like to think of myself as emotionally mature :P. However, we didn't actually date AND both family and friends kept warning me off her because, they said, she was was at a different place in her life regardless of what we both said to each other. Sidenote, we kept jokingly mentioning each other's ages; it was definitely something that we were both aware of and would have had to be discussed had we actually dated. I still am open to dating someone older. To me, it's more about individual compatibility than a particular descriptor though it should be discussed. Hope this helps?
tarakins42tarakins42 on December 2nd, 2013 04:29 am (UTC)
I really do think that age is just a number and it depends solely on the individual!
pony_rockspony_rocks on December 2nd, 2013 10:36 am (UTC)
Exactly.
My wife was 25 when we started dating, I was 16. After 15 years we are still happily together. It's just about who you are, not how old you are.
The Honey Bear: Mucha vikingninaofthevalley on December 2nd, 2013 05:16 pm (UTC)
I'm so happy it turned out so well for you ^^ Did you and your partner get a lot of criticism due to your ages?
pony_rockspony_rocks on December 2nd, 2013 05:19 pm (UTC)
Thanks!
To be honest, we received almost no age-related criticism at all. Some people suggested we did not match personality-wise, but while there are indeed some differences, we are in fact eerily similar when it comes to the most important matters. :D
goblinhipstergoblinhipster on December 2nd, 2013 05:11 am (UTC)
Eh, I think that as people get older, age difference becomes less and less of a big deal. 24 and 34 doesn't sound like too much of a difference to me.
shorti_08: Parisshorti_08 on December 2nd, 2013 03:16 pm (UTC)
I think age matters when you're in your early twenties and younger, mainly because there's a lot you will experience but haven't yet. But later it matters less.

Nothing to do with age but if you haven't properly left home, or held down a full-time job, or somehow learned to be independent of your parents, or been responsible at least for yourself, then you're still a child in my mind. But I know 18 year-olds who far exceed 20-somethings in maturity.
Jamiestorybox on December 2nd, 2013 07:25 pm (UTC)
I'm 24 and my girlfriend is 28 which I suppose is not really the same as what you're asking, but I never thought of age as a big deal. I think it's more common than you'd think. :)
~Chibi Rachy~chibirachy on December 3rd, 2013 01:47 am (UTC)
I think it really depends on the person and their maturity levels, rather than the age itself. There was recently someone messaging me who was 22, which I wouldn't mind, but they weren't very mature, and we definitely weren't in the same place in life. Plus, her goal for having a girlfriend was to have someone to cuddle and watch movies all day with. That right there was definitely a no go.
shorti_08: kissshorti_08 on December 4th, 2013 01:16 am (UTC)
Why was that a no go? Cuddling in front of some movies all day sounds wonderful to me, but maybe because I'm 24 and don't often have a whole day to devote to my girlfriend as well as downtime.
~Chibi Rachy~chibirachy on December 7th, 2013 05:06 am (UTC)
Because that should not be one's goal in having a girlfriend to me. That's a perk, something wonderful to do with a girlfriend, not an overall goal.
adjectives are not facts.manderleys on December 3rd, 2013 04:21 am (UTC)
I think it's fine, though of course it always depends on the specific individuals involved :)
E: pretty girls kissing black and whitestarbrow on December 3rd, 2013 07:41 am (UTC)
My ex and I were ten years apart - when we got together I was 23 and she was 33. She had a lot more life experience than me, having had kids and a previous marriage and everything but that didn't matter so much. I think it's a lot more to do with how your personalities actually fit together rather than being in the same place in life.
crazylife99crazylife99 on December 4th, 2013 02:10 am (UTC)
My girl and I have a five yr age difference- I'm 32 and she's 27. Age has never been an issue for us.
Heyokaheyokawrites on December 4th, 2013 04:37 am (UTC)
I am 25 and have been dating a 36 year old for 5 months. Age has not been an issue for us. Though, mentally I feel like I'm also 36. I think it depends on the person. A 10 year age gap can mean quite a bit in terms of career status, priorities, perspective, desires, etc, so if you are too far apart in those things it may not work. But I don't think you should write things off based solely on age.
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